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When we compare the wicked behavior of the people of Sodom and Gomorrah, which precipitated such an action by the Almighty, to the sins of the modern world, not only in our country but particularly in our country, we find ourselves apologizing to Sodom and Gomorrah! For this generation, with its wholesale perversion and legalized immorality running rampant throughout our society, has plummeted far lower than that of Sodom and Gomorrah! And then as the punishment befits the crime, we can at the least, expect that which God meted out on the evil men and women of these cities.

What has become legal and is now the law of our land, not too long ago was against the law and punishable by prison up to twenty years ago. When we consider the legalization of Abortion, Homosexual actions, same-sex marriages, Euthanasia, assisted suicide, sterilization, cloning, choosing who has the right to live – refusing life support and/or imposing death on those whose quality of life is judged below the standards prescribed by insurance statistics, approving or disapproving operations and transplants based on age, and on and on, it makes Sodom and Gomorrah seem like a high school prom which got out of hand.

When has the Culture of Death equaled that of the last days of the Twentieth Century and the beginning of the Third Millenium? We seem to be on a course of outdoing every decadent society before us, striving to top the perversions of Sodom and Gomorrah and go beyond those of the Roman and Greek civilizations. Homosexuality and sexual permissiveness ran unrestrained, completely out of control in the Greek and then in the Roman empires. In every society gone mad, the citizens drunk with the elixir of the pagan gods of permissiveness, promiscuity, depravity, and human sacrifice, those civilizations perished! Did they have a government helping to finance and police forces (who justify their actions by saying they are just following orders, like the Nazis at the Nuremberg trials) enforcing depravity? In any event, we do and we all know what happened to those civilizations, and so, unless we can change men’s hearts, what can we expect for our civilization?

In those times, there were not organized women’s groups (financed by our tax dollars) dedicated to the murder of unborn children, under the banner of woman’s choice over her body and the woman’s right to freedom from the heels of a male-dominated society. Even during the great movement of women to be freed from the oppression of men’s laws, the foundress of that outstanding Woman’s movement in this country, Susan B. Anthony, maintained that the murder of a pre-born child was a deplorable crime. She stated, “I deplore the horrible crime of child-murder (referring to abortion), no matter what the motive, love of ease, or a desire to save from suffering the unborn innocent. The woman is awfully guilty who commits the deed (abortion).” The feminists of her day considered abortion acts of “desperate savageness” and “the slaughter of the innocents.” (Information courtesy of CRNET, Mannassas, VA 1994)

Susan B. Anthony, foundress and spearhead of the feminist movement in the United States, would most likely be drummed out by the current gurus of the movement. It would not be convenient for them to support their mother-in-faith.

Maybe the Renaissance period, the great rebirth of art and culture, and the downfall of spirituality and morals, which was famous for its secular humanism, its debauchery, its attempt to recreate the orgiastic flavor of the Roman Empire at its worst, comes close in sinfulness and wickedness to this, the first decade of the Third Millenium. Renaissance was broken up into two philosophies, Secular Humanism and Christian Humanism. Whereas one philosophy’s intention was to explore the beauty of the languages, the sculptors, the artists, the philosophers, in an effort to glorify God through the advancements of His creation, another stronger philosophy’s focus was to delve into the subculture, the perversion of ancient Rome and Greece, with its open sex, permissiveness, radical homosexual activity, materialism, self gratification and personal advancement, a philosophy of, if it pleases you, go for it! We may have said it before, but just looking at what began in mid-Fourteenth Century Italy, and then spread over all of Europe, the parallels are frightening with what’s going on today. But again, we seriously doubt that at their very worst, they equaled the wickedness of these (last?) days.

We’ve seen it coming for years. In the last ten years or so, as we have traveled around the country giving talks at Marian and Eucharistic Conferences, Days of Recollection and Parish Missions, we have cried out passionately, “We have to apologize to the people of Sodom and Gomorrah. Our behavior makes them look like choir boys and girls.” Since the scandal of Abortion came upon the scene in 1973, and the subsequent legalization of the ghoulish practice of taking body parts from aborted babies, which are then used for experimentation and ingredients in the manufacture of skin creams for aging men and women, for human growth hormones to make old men feel younger, all for fun and profit, we’ve had to take another look at our attitudes towards the Nazi butchers and their atrocities at Auschwitz.

We went to Auschwitz and Birkenau to videotape documentaries on man’s inhumanity to man as displayed in the vile genocide of Edith Stein and St. Maxmilian Kolbe. We taped one segment outside the death cell of St. Maxmilian Kolbe, where prisoners were taken by the Nazis, lined up against a wall and shot after first having all their clothes removed so that they could be used for other prisoners in a cost-cutting effort to maintain economy in the camp. We noticed that all the windows in the building across from St. Maxmilian Kolbe’s death cell were boarded up. None of the other buildings in Auschwitz were boarded up. So we asked our guide what had gone on in that building. We were told that was where experimentation was done on pregnant women and aborted children. Genetic study began in that condemned building. But how has history judged them and how will history judge us? In the light of the legalized murder of over a billion unborn children worldwide through Abortion, will our generation be found guilty of massive genocide, or will they say that the butchers at Auschwitz were perhaps just slightly ahead of their time?

Bob and Penny Lord are renowned Catholic authors and television hosts on EWTN, Global Catholic television. They are prolific writers about the Catholic faith, especially the Saints for which they have been dubbed “experts on the Saints.” For more information about this article content go to Beyond Sodom and Gomorrah

By Zis Zid

Recently rumors have been flying in the Hollywood sectors that the nicest pair in city Teen Pop sensation Justin Bieber and Disney celebrity Selena Gomez currently have called it quits. A lot of rumours on the internet have been saying that Selena did not like Bieber friends, Lil Wayne, Chris Brown and also Sean Kingston. It is said that Justin and Selena concluded their relationship when Justin Bieber attended one of the live shows of Selena Gomez along with Sean Kingston who’s a record of being inside prison at the age of 11. It is said that the star of Monte carlo has made it clear towards the Baby singer to his rapper buddy Lil Wayne who was charged on gun and drug ownership as well as Chris Brown who was charged on assaulting his ex girlfriend Rihanna back in 2009.

A friend of Selena said, Selena informed him to prevent hanging with these bad people. She did not want him to crash her show. They had an enormous row and said it was great they were having time apart while she was on tour. However, Justin is stated to have taken the split badly and was discovered in tears after one of their arguments.

The friend included that it is hard seeing a little 17 year old crying and stating he loves her. Well this is certainly one version which is found its place in the web circles, another version of the separation, but this time it is due to our teen himself. It is stated that Selena has caught Bieber sending text messages to his ex-girlfriend and the enraged Selena has called it quits.

These facts are corroborated by many people videos that have been posted on Youtube confirming the breakup. Well officially either the sources didn’t validate whether the pair are still together or fell aside however our teen was spotted on Saturday night and Bieber was back to his lovesick puppy ways, following Gomez around on tour, and was spotted backstage at her show in Boca Raton, Fla. Wearing her tour T-shirt, no less. This turns into a evidence that they are still couples.

Earlier, Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez revealed that they have split up their own relationship over Justin Bieber close friends Chris Brown, Lil Wyane and Sean Kingston. Justin and Selena which is known as Jelena apparently concluded their relationship after a concert of Selena Gomez in Florida together with Sean Kingston. It also seems Selena doesn’t like Justin Bieber to hang with his friend Lil Wayne, who has bad background of drugs possession as well as Chris Brown. Selena also claimed that by next coming days She will try to keep her relationship with Justin Bieber as normal as possible.

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When deciding where to dine for a special occasion, Indian restaurants often spring to mind. The one place known for Indian Restaurants is Manchester. With the succulent meat and strong flavours Indian cuisine can be hard to resist.

There are many dishes available on the Indian menus from classic favourites to rare treats. It can be hard to decide what to get for your meal. If you’re feeling like playing it safe here are some of the most popular Indian curry sauces.

Tikka Masala is one of the Indian favourites in Britain. It is arguably the most popular curry dish in the UK. Chicken is a popular food amongst English cuisine and is no exception in Indian cuisine. Chicken Tikka Masala is probably very popular due to the mildness of the curry. Many people are sensitive to spices and tikka masala is both tasty and easy on the heat. Many people eat chicken tikka masala when they have a curry for the first time due to it being mild and very widely known. It is generally a bright red colour and is mildly spicy with hints of coconut and sweetness.

Vindaloo is a very popular due to the sheer strength of it. Many people call it a “man’s” curry due to it being extremely strong. It is wrongly known as the hottest curry available on the menu which isn’t necessarily true in all Indian catering establishments. In India, Vindaloo is commonly served at marriage parties in addition to regularly featuring in home cooking.

Rogan Josh is a popular mild-medium sauce and is ideally served with lamb. Rogan Josh gets its rich red colour from the Kashmiri dry red chillies and tomatoes that are typically used to make the sauce. Rogan Josh is generally one of the more tomato flavoured dishes available within Indian cuisine. Rogan Josh is considered to be more of a meat based dish although Vegetable Rogan Josh is available on the menu on Indian restaurants.

Korma is one of the mildest dishes available on most Indian Restaurant’s menus. It is a yellowish/golden colour and generally a thick texture. It is a very sweet curry sauce which has a main taste base of coconut. Combining korma sauce with chicken is a popular sauce for those who don’t like to eat spicy curries when dining in an Indian restaurant. It is a rather creamy dish and is not considered to be spicy at all, many people try this dish when experiencing Indian cuisine for the first time.

Madras is a considerably spicy curry sauce which has a reddish appearance. The dish is a popular choice in Britain with meat or vegetables; however the dishes origin lies in Hindu culture so it was originally a vegetarian dish. The dish is named after the city it originates from in India. Although Madras dishes vary, it is generally considered to consist of smooth coconut flavours, toasty spices and have earthy tones.

By Andrew Scherer

Are you very much in love right now but can’t think of a way for the person to know you’re there? As someone who has a heart, we will always encounter sadness and the feeling of being loved. The thing about being in love is that it might be just a one way feeling. And yes, love should always be two way to have that feeling of fulfillment and happiness; and there is a way to that.

This feeling called love is important for everyone. It gives fulfillment and happiness to a person. Letting someone to love you back is the hardest part in a relationship. When you have the chance to love a person, it’s natural for you to do everything just to make the person stay with you. Unfortunately, there will always come a time that you might be just loving the person but not actually loving the individual. Love might be unfair most of the time. When this stage in a relationship occurs, both parties tend to lose their feelings from 1 one more. Often, loving individual will end just not the way you wanted it to be.

Inside the very good old days, witches had been the 1 who performs love spells to create an individual fall in love. Love spells had been quite well-known but was only offered to men and women who can afford and who are chosen. Love spells had been not accomplished immediately, it was constantly based by the formation of the stars, the rising and falling of the moon and sun, and apparatus had been also utilised to total a spell. This type of love spells are merely myths nowadays because there are a lot of modern love spells available online this time.

In employing the world wide web, these love spells might be quickly noticed by way of sites. And considering that every person desires an individual to love them back, the understanding in how we do such issue is what every person is aiming for. With mobile access of love spells over the world wide web, a great deal of men and women are now into modern day love spells that could either support them or scam them. The world wide web was created to create communication less difficult, nonetheless a whole lot folks are making use of the net for their sole benefit, and which is by acquiring funds from the folks. Once again, love spells are widespread targets for scamming. The principal reason why they use this as the principal target is since love spells or love is often a topic every single day and everywhere. Most internet sites that speak about love spells are prospective scams, specifically if they ask a enormous quantity of income from you; and guess what, you get absolutely nothing in return. Despite the fact that you can find also web sites that give out no cost love spells, a great deal of them in fact do not function.

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Might it be that whenever you are looking at a husband cheating is practically inescapable inside the modern-day relationship, or might a man basically be using numerous reasons to warrant his misbehavior? Cheating appears to be a common portion of modern day living, even though, fortunately, modern-day society still frowns on this variety of conduct and even now mostly values the sanctity of marital life or perhaps a fully committed partnership.

It would appear that there are more opportunities for being disloyal within the sort of society we are in now, sad to say. We could be extremely linked to the outside world and carry out our cheating anonymously in many respects. Just consider exactly how we can get access to chat rooms, on-line services and exactly how each and every laptop nowadays generally seems to come with a web cam built-in. It’s very easy to commence the whole process of straying further afield from the convenience of your residence, any time your spouse is not nearby.

Yet we can’t fault the net or perhaps the growth of social networking and we need to recognize that there’s always a real cause of any husband cheating. Numerous justifications are set forward, nevertheless it appears more unlikely that things will begin to go wrong if a relationship is really vibrant and involved. If, for instance, both people commit to spending high quality time collectively every single day and certainly not let their marriage or relationship grow to be boring or routine, situations are getting better. Personal time is really significant, but it should not be labeled as a basis for something that you simply “need to do.”

If you put plenty of variety into your sexual relations, this may frequently help prevent any wandering eyes. You can undoubtedly come across all sorts of erotic amusement on the web, where all you need is credit cards to gain access. Sex needless to say can be a highly effective motivator and one of the primary reasons why husbands come to be cheats. It may take some ingenuity, contemplation and style, but there is simply no reason why you can’t match that hunger inside the limits of your personal private room, after all.

Within many an evaluation of a failed marital life, husband cheating could have been warranted due to the lack of conjugal activity inside the relationship on its own. While there is needless to say far more to real love than sex by itself, it’s a critical portion of holding this all together. More frequently than not though, this is simply not something which just “transpires” over time. Due to the fact that the man and woman don’t converse very well, everything is permitted to cultivate and evolve when it would have been at some point easier than you think to repair.

It may be factual that around one in every two men attempt to be unfaithful as part of a relationship and we all know that occasionally 50% of marriages end in failure. If you are both really involved in your romantic relationship and do not let the grass grow under your feet, then you can boost your likelihood of achieving success and maintaining a lasting relationship on into the future.

Today’s celebrities are all about the “I” in fashion and that has seeped into the stream of culture identity of the masses. Individual, unique, chic, and inspiring are what make up the fashion choices of the world’s A list people. They want to stand out, draw attention, but retain the smooth veneer in their pride and confidence. Surprisingly enough one of the biggest choices in the wardrobe today is that of the metallic tutu. These articles of clothing can make or break an outfit but from the looks of popular culture icons such as Katy Perry and Lady GaGa, they have found the secret to ‘making’ it. A metallic tutu is just the right mixture of a little bit girl, a little bit funk, and a whole bunch of sass. They can be worn over tights, over jeans, and in some cases by themselves. These clothing pieces are perfect for parties, for nights out on the town, and with a little bit of imagination thrown in they are great costume accessories. No matter your age a tutu is almost a necessity for the chic girl’s closet. These skirts come in a variety of styles and colors making it quite easy to find one that fits your personality: wild and colorful will bring all eyes in the room on you, muted black or white gives a hint of adventure while retaining that classic, composed look.

It will showcase your maturity while hinting at the fiery spirit within. Slipping one of the these babies on can give you an instant uplift in confidence and give you the feel of a celebrity yourself. If anything a tutu of any style is the perfect addition to the ‘little girl’ in your life. Daughter, niece, grandchild, a tutu is the perfect gift of fun and fashion. These pieces are no longer limited to the ballet stage and classroom. Paired with some tights or jeans they can be worn to school or out to play. In fact once that little girl of yours has it on the hardest part will be getting her to take it off. Popular culture today has already made sure that she is aware of the tutu. Everywhere you turn, in music videos, movies, commercials, the tutu and especially the metallic one can be seen and witnessed in all of its glory. So it’s not surprising if you’ve already been made aware. Sew on some decals to add a personal touch.

Take a look at celebrities like Katy Perry who use tutus almost as a stable to their wardrobe and mimic their pieces for a unique costume idea for your child. Make them yourself if you feel so inclined. No matter what though consider adding this unique article of frill to your wardrobe. Give it a try and be surprised at just how ‘fun’ it makes you feel.

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In the fashion world, styles change quickly, and it can be difficult to keep up with the trends. This is especially true for skirt and dress lengths, because they tend to vary yearly. For a long period of time, miniskirts prevailed on the runways, in movies, and on the streets. Eventually, a new craze hit the fashion scene in the form of the maxi dress. Today, women can enjoy the best of both worlds with the revival of the midi dress.

Midi dresses have been around for centuries in various styles. These dresses fall just below the knees or just above the bottom of the calves. Unlike the mini or maxi versions, midi dresses are universally flattering. Mini and maxi dresses are sometimes tricky to pull off. Miniskirts are often considered risqué, and maxi lengths can look frumpy on certain body types. The midi dress solves these and many other problems.

Women who wear midi dresses don’t have to worry about showing too much or too little. This modest skirt allows a woman to show off her legs without being revealing. Additionally, a woman who normally looks lost in the extra fabric of a maxi dress will appreciate the ideal length of the midi. Because it is not too long or too short, a midi dress is suitable for nearly any occasion, including formal affairs or casual outings.

One of the biggest problems with mini and maxi dresses is the lack of options these garments offer. These dresses require too many rules when it comes to matching them with tops or shoes. Midi dresses offer women more choices, because they do not go to either extreme in length. There are numerous creative options available, and each one adds to the raw appeal of the midi dress.

One option that a woman has while wearing a midi skirt is to pair it with a tucked-in top. This is the perfect way to elongate the legs without putting too much focus on the skirt itself. Another option that is suitable with midi dresses is volume. Mini and maxi skirts that have too much volume tend to look childish or too full. A voluminous midi dress creates a visual point of interest without being overwhelming.

Midi dresses can also be worn with various types of shoes. High heels lengthen the legs, while flats or kitten heels create a casual and comfortable look. A midi dress can also be worn with boots of any length. Mini and maxi dresses do not always look appealing with certain styles of shoes, and a woman can unwittingly create an unattractive silhouette by making the wrong choices with these dresses.

Midi dresses are ideal for women of all ages, shapes, and sizes. These multi-functional garments can be worn for day or night excursions, walks on the beach, or extravagant affairs. They come in a variety of colours, patterns, textures, fabrics, and shapes, which gives women unlimited choices. The midi dress is an essential item for any woman’s wardrobe.

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Summer vacation for most students means absolute freedom. It is the time when there is no homework and they have three months to enjoy their summer. Some kids start the summer packing up their camping supplies and heading off to nearby State or National park. Other kids are not so much interested in outdoor camping gear as they are going to the beach or an arcade maybe. As they get older, summer vacation is more for working perhaps, or tanning, or doing summer reading homework. Regardless of age or what they are looking forward to during the summer, one thing is always true. As the end of July and August comes around kids sometimes get a little bored with summer. Doing the same thing, or nothing, all day starts to get a little old. Here is some advice to keep summer exciting and fresh for you and your young ones.

Amusement parks are always a fun idea. If you can afford it, a season pass is really a great deal. You could then setup a carpool system or trade-off days with other parents and let your kids go much more often. If your children are older, like in junior high, you can always drop them off and give them a little freedom if you feel comfortable. If you cannot afford season passes, splurging on a family trip one day is truly a great idea. It offers a chance to change the boring routine of the everyday and do something exciting. Your family will really appreciate this chance to do something fun.

Another easy way to spice things up is a cheap weekend vacation. Renting a house or cabin near a lake would provide your family an opportunity to get away. If you know how to drive a boat, you can always rent one as well. If not, a paddle boat and canoe can provide just as much fun. If you have a friend with a house on the water, you could always ask them if you could pay to spend a week or so with them.

Another fun activity kids can do is to enroll in a week-long sport or summer camp. Not only will this keep them busy, but it will keep them out of your hair for the day. High schools and local clubs often host these types of training throughout the summer. All different types of high school sports teams like to sponsor such activities. They are usually held for elementary grade students and there will be separate ones for older kids, such as junior high students. A sports camp will help your kids get a leg up when it comes time for high school and will tire them out quickly. By the end of the week, he or she will probably be ready to do nothing for another week!

Summer should a time of fun and relaxation for your children and you. By keeping them active and entertained all of you will be able to get more out of your time off.

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It’s tough to believe but there certainly are a lot of different methods you can make money body painting. When I just began in the art I figured you might be able to earn some dollars here and there and it can be quite a solution to earn some more income however , there are many choices in the world of body painting. Really, all you have to do is get really inventive and use your creativity. If you brainstorm for a while you may just come up with something that no person has done before.

Here are ten ways you can start making money with the art of body painting.

1. Paint up people before they head out to their event or party. Holiday parties or themed parties are great opportunities to do this for. You want to let everyone know that you will do body painting on all their friends too and hand out your really creative and splashy business cards so you can get more business.

2. Offer to do body painting for local parties. Have people hire you for their next party and earn money by the hour or have you can have a flat rate for the whole event. Be sure to hand out your business cards everywhere you work so you can get more business.

3. Find a circus and travel with them and be their “in house” body painter and makeup artist.

4. Doing just face painting opens so many doors. You can do this at festivals, parties, special events, fairs, schools, church functions, and any other place where a lot of people gather. Most places like this will let you set up a booth for a small fee and then you just let the customers come to you. Doing just this, you can easily make $500 in just one day.

5. Find a dance studio and see if they will hire you as their full time body painting person. You can either work for a small fee or even do it for free just to get the experience and to get the word out about your work. When people see the dancers and how well you have painted them up, word will get around and you will find yourself with some high paying jobs.

6. Sporting events are a great place to do body painting. Fans love to be decked out in their favorite team’s colors to show their team spirit.

7. Do special events around town like fundraisers, reunions, graduations and celebrations all could use some body painting. Offer your services to everyone and you are sure to find some of these gigs.

8. Ask local theaters if they are in need of your services. All theaters need body painting and if you have the right price you could be their main go to person. This will also get your name out as people see what a great job you do and word will get out and jobs will start coming in.

9. There are festivals all over the world and they will have booth space that you can rent and give out your body painting serves there. Usually you can make really good money at these and if you travel around you can find festivals all year long as they are just about every weekend someplace.

10. Teach other people how to do the art of body painting. Give classes or give lessons privately. Either way, you can make money by teaching others how to do the different techniques in the art of body painting.

I hope this helps you get your creative juices flowing and get you on your way to making some good money body painting. The possibilities really are endless and you don’t have to choose the one that you believe will make the most money, you are better off to choose the ones that you think you will enjoy the most. That way you are having a great time and making money is just the bonus. People will gravitate to you if they see you truly love what you are doing and they will want to be around you and you will notice that the money will just flow in.

Copyright © 2011 Dirk Sayers

In his post of January 18, 2011, “Cheating Is in Our DNA,” Charles Orlando distinguishes between two “flavors” of infidelity: the “fling” as in the one-night stand and the affair, which he characterizes as a long-term relationship. More to the point, a long-term relationship that is in competition with yours. Not that he stipulates this…but most us take it for granted. He goes on to observe that affairs do not necessarily involve sex. In Orlando’s opinion, affairs are much trickier to get over than the “fling,” because there is always emotional engagement that accompanies the affair.

I suspect many of us would agree with him, on some practical level. But he doesn’t stop there. Mr. Orlando makes some other statements in his article that I’m not sure I agree with…grist for another article, another time, perhaps. Most pointedly, in the era of Social Media, he brings up “online cheating.” Says Orlando:

“There are an endless number of sites that advocate and enable real-world affairs (Whose highest spending advertisers are divorce attorneys). But meeting someone online and then quickly transferring the relationship to the real world is just a fling. Online cheating is different. With the rise of social media and community-based websites, connecting with others in remote locations isn’t just the activity of a small sub-culture, it is ingrained into our everyday lives…Online cheating – without any physical contact – is the most emotionally damaging type of infidelity. The reason? The entire “connection” between the two parties is emotional.”

Where to start? I guess I’ll start with his punch line, namely that online cheating without any physical contact is the most emotionally damaging because it’s entirely emotional. Well, maybe. But to use his words “…online cheating – without any physical contact…” Doesn’t that leave a lot on the table? He left me wondering if his article would have been more convincing if he had opted for a more clearly drawn definition. To illustrate what I mean. Is it online cheating if the “cheater” maintains an ongoing relationship that wouldn’t cross the line in the real world? I have a hard time getting there. Many of us have friends for whom we have genuine regard and about whom we care…without ever wanting to “cheat” with them on our life-partner. If a similar regard for someone you meet online develops, is that, by definition cheating? What about relationships that start professionally but become more as it evolves? Is there a point at which it crosses the line, even if it never results in sex? If so, at what point does that become true?

The point of these questions is not to push the sublime to the ridiculous. But taking Mr. Orlando seriously at all begs (in my opinion) a more clearly delineated definition of online cheating…especially since it’s (relatively) new. My own working definition would be:

Online Cheating: An emotionally engaged relationship conducted online that inhibits, damages or replaces the growth in your primary relationship.

Note the absence of gender, here. Does that mean that you could “cheat online” with either a man or a woman? Technically, yes. But isn’t it also possible, then that a purely professional relationship could have the same effect, without any intent on either party’s part to do so? Again, I think it could.

Therein, in my opinion, lies one of the problems with Mr. Orlando’s article.

I understand his desire to avoid spending a lot of ink defining something that is essentially a matter of perception, anyway. All personal relationships are laced with emotion and those with the one you love more than any other. But love is not always right or reasonable. So not unlike cheating in the “real” world, it is equally subject to the same misunderstandings.

In the era of social media and its ubiquitous use, I’m of the belief that many if not most who spend much time online will inevitably skate close to the edge, on this one. And perhaps that’s Mr. Orlando’s point. The emergence of facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and the host of social networking tools are sure to raise these questions, as they improve opportunities to cheat as he is inclined to define it. Mr. Orlando’s avoidance of defining what he means by “online cheating” does not detract from the usefulness of his observations.

But it does lead to an interesting personal dynamic that sooner or later, virtually everyone will have to address with their significant other. What constitutes “online cheating?” What expectations does each party have of the other in this regard and where does he/she draw the line? It’s a personal call, in my opinion. What the most reasonable will accept without concern might border of prima facie evidence of impending betrayal to someone else. The point? I’d have that conversation with your SO, if I were you. Particularly if you’re in a profession that requires or is supported by social/professional networking in any form. Not because it is inherently a problem…but to keep it from becoming one, inadvertently. Just my opinion…What do you think?

If the above was helpful, click through to Dirk’s website at http://www.TheNoFearGuide.com and check out the resources available there. Visit his free downloads page or get more information on his book The Woman’s No-Fear Guide to Online Dating and The No-Fear Companion Guide to Profile Development. Dirk is a 10 year veteran of online dating who met the last, best love of his life online. Take advantage of a man’s perspective, today.